冷战

每次冷战后我都要作一个closure, 要不然我总觉得这个冷战并没有结束。 为什么每次错一定是别人？我被blamed时，心情好时我就会算了，心情坏时我就会覚得我的付出都白费了，很伤心，很生气，可是我可以向谁说？所以我只好沉默，当沉默成为一种习惯后，我们的距离就会越来越远。。。SAD, 可是我还是很爱你。

冷战

有时候朋友会 complain 和老公吵架了，听了原因有时会想：呵，就为了这一点小事啊？ 轮到自己的时候，就会明白这小事只是导火线，真正的原因是自己 so far 有没有被尊重了？被爱了？被理解了？ 很多次吵架后都是我先开口，这一次也不例外， 为什么总是别人的错？

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今天去中文班接慈心放学，她一脸无辜的看着我说：I have been punished！ 我：why? (吃惊） 心：The boy sat beside me always talks to me! 我听了忍不住大笑起来，这叽喳妹终于因为爱说话被罚了。我：how did your teacher punish you? 心：By standing for few minutes. 太逗了！！

童言童语

我： 慈心 come on, quick. 心： Wait.. 我： 不要说 wait. 心： But you always say wait to me... 我：@。@ 心： Mum, xxx in the Power Ranger is bad, he said “ give me the crystal”. 我： Ya, he is a bad guy. 心： Ya, he should say “ give me the crystal PLEASE!!” 我：。。。。。 洋： Mum, I want to be a bird (looking outside the window) 我： Why 洋： So I can fly and have a better view.

买新车咯！！

Daddy 多年的心愿终于在今天实现了,我们今天下午去给了新车的deposit. 从说要买车开始，daddy 就一直很兴奋，先选了几个牌子的车，有Toyota, 有Hundai, 有Kia， 有Skoda。 选好了牌子，就去试车，试了好几回，又1.6， 又2.0， 又compared this 又compared that, Toyota 还让他把车开回来一个weekend.

Daddy 就是daddy, 买东西就是又要平宜又要大又要多， Skoda Supurb 符和了这个条件。看得出daddy 真的很开心。

Holiday 2012-Hafan y Mor

16.07.2012 正往Hafan y Mor 的 途中 . The weather is so bad…I am so sick…Damn。 Free Wi Fi 又如同虚设。Damn!!! We arrived at Holyhead around 11 O’çlock, 雨还是下个不停， bad luck.. Everyone felt so hungry at this stage, we went to Mc Donald, it was full so we just have take away. Ate in the car…still raining… 吃 饱了， continue our journey, daddy didn’t really follow the Sat Nav, we were not sure if we go on the right direction. But it didn’t really bother us as the check in time is 4pm. When we arrived at Phewelli, we decided to do some shopping before we check in and we found Asda..Hurray….I love Asda. Felt a bit disappointed after shopping at Asda, not everything are cheaper than Dublin. We arrived at Hafen y Mor just after 4.20pm, after check in and got our key, we drove to our apartment… It was bit old. Daddy and I were so tired, we had a nap while the kids sort out the room and their belonging. Our first dinner was spaghetti Bolognese, didn’t like the mince, poor quality. After dinner, we went out to explored the village, stopped to watch kids play football, a boy invited Ci Hang to play with them, seem his holiday start straight away. 17.07.2012 The weather still not good, cloudy, sometime drizzling ..but after breakfast, we decided to go out whatever the weather is. We went to the Sport Dome to book some activities for Ci Hang later, many of them had booked out, we managed to book him into archery and target shooting tomorrow. Each activity cost 8 pounds. After that, we went to hire a family kart, we went around the village, stop at the rocky beach, it was fun. After this, we went back to get our swimming gears and head for the swimming pool. The kids have fun at the pool. We have our lunch at Barger King… We went back to get some rest, but Ci Hang went to play football with his friends. Our dinner was rice with pork chops. After dinner, we went to the play ground and arcad. 18.07.2012 We woke up late, after breakfast we took Ci Hnag to his archery, we left him there, then we went to the explored the park, kids don’t like it, they think it was too tired. We went to pedal boat, 8 pounds for the whole family, Ci Yang threw some bread to the ducks as they trailed behind our boat. After the boat ride, we went back for lunch, fried rice with left over pork chop. After lunch, Ci Hang went out again, the rest of us played UNO. Ci Hang came back later as he need to go to archery and Ci Yang ‘s activity (Aqua Glider) started at 6.30pm, so daddy and I need to bring them separately, luckily Ci Xin was slept in the car. Ci Yang seem enjoy the activity. Ci Qing got herself ready and join the Aqua Jet group, and Ci Hang just came in on time. After the Aqua Jet, both of them went straight to the Water Walkzer. The kids got fish and chip take away, daddy and I ate Indian Meal from Asda..Not nice. 19.07.2012 我们去坐火车， 看了一个castle， 吃了一个world famous 的 ice-cream. 回程 在Tesco 买了 readymade food, 回去弄热吃就算了。 20.07.2012 Breakfast 后， 大家分工合作， 把东西收拾好， 开车去码头。 On the way 还停在一个海边玩了一会儿。 到了Holyhead, 先在麦记吃了才上船， 这一次我先吃了止吐药。 19.07.2012 After breakfast, we went to the swimming pool for the last time, this time the kids enjoy more and Ci yang went on the big slide by himself 2 times and Ci Qing went on the outside slide. We went home and had lunch. We ate sandwiches. After lunch we went to the old welsh highland railway. We went on an old train ride at 2 o’clock. When we stopped to change the train to the other side Ci Qing and Ci Xin brought a lantern to the back of the train where they hooked it up. We went on a miniature railway and the kids got to sit in “First Class”

Holiday 2012

今年的summer holidays so far so good! 五天四夜的 Haven Y Moy 和 三天两夜的 Granue Farm stay 都很棒。 尤其是Mayo trip, 我们choose 了 天气 好的一天去 Westport House and Pirate Centre 玩， 孩子们都很开心。带了三个大的去坐Pirate Ship, 坐了一轮， 马上要求下来， 太恐怖了， 慈航和慈情还排队坐多 两次！ 在farm 里， 后园的几只小猫， 碰碰跳跳的兔子， 公鸡， 母鸡都给孩子们带来欢乐， 喂它们吃东西和它们玩就是每天的activity 之一。 在holidays 里， 没有规定的时间表， 睡到自然醒， 拖拖拉拉，看了电视才出门， 去到哪玩到哪， 没有太多的plan. 这一次的两个holiday 都是self-catering, 不像几年前把整个厨房搬去似得， 我这一次连酱油都没带， 吃得简淡。 Holiday 时候的我很relax, 心情轻松， 对孩子没捉得那么紧， 少吃一顿不要紧， 迟睡一点也无所谓， the most important is 大家开心。

First Time

昨天有两个第一次---- 慈航第一次自己乘bus和朋友去看戏。花了15 Euro 在戏票，吃 and game. 这傢伙花钱的方法还是需要多多教育。 慈心作天去了 Castaheany summer camp, as usual 没有fuss, 没有problem.

童言妙语

Daddy 带慈洋剪头发，剪啊剪，慈洋突然冒出一句：I am buddhist but not a monk! 你听得出他的意思吗？ 今天在车里。。。。 心：Mom, how old are you? 我：你问我几岁？ 心：No....not you bed time!! 我：几岁 means how old am I, not 睡觉的睡！！

Made me proud

I met Ger at the door when I was collecting Ci Hang and Ci Qing from Cubs meeting. I told her that Ci Hang wants to quit Cubs, she was shocked and said she won't let him quit. When Ci Hang came out, she told him that she have heard that he wants to leave, she was upset and so as other leaders. She told him that he is such a quality member in the team that she won't not let go. I was so happy to hear other people praised my son in this way, he really make me proud!!

I can call myself an Irish now!!!

14/6/2012 是一个值得记念的日子。在这一天我宣布我成为爱尔兰公民了。没有特别的兴奋，只是觉得了一件心事。

黑胡椒猪脚

那天弄了一道好好吃的黑胡椒猪脚。 豬手 1隻約600克, 斬塊 洋葱 2顆, 去皮, 分四 蒜頭 6瓣, 去皮, 拍扁 油 1大匙 調味料: 黑胡椒碎 1大匙 醬油 6大匙 黑醬油 1小匙 糖 1小匙 水 800克 做法: 1. 豬手洗净, 放入沸水中川燙, 撈起, 放在水喉下冲洗乾净. 2. 燒熱油, 爆香蒜頭和洋葱, 加入豬手炒匀. 3. 加入調味料煮滾, 轉小火燜45分鐘或豬手軟Q汁濃即可.

管教

Last night 慈航 又发大脾气了。事因为慈情多管闲事，他不爽。过后又拿刀在报纸上乱割，看了真伤心。当时马上告诉 daddy， 那知他比我还冲动，即时宣布NO MORE GAMES!!!! 还当场摔破game， 能解决问题么？ Of course, we all go to bed with sad feeling. 今早半训半劝得说了20分钟， as usuall, 他替他自己的行为辨负， 但是我还是表明我的立场，要他自己反省。过后他说他很内疚，how true? I don't know. Last week, 他告诉我他射精了！！！接着被我发现他故意自慰射精了几次。我告诉他精子满了自动流出来是自然的，可是故意自慰射精不是他这个年龄作的事。I told daddy about this, I think he needs to talk to him, but 迟迟不见他行动。

Chicken pox

这原本应该是日记的 blog 都变成月记了。 慈心 13/5/2012 中 chicken pox, 求神拜佛希望那三个不要在这时候中。 May 是个很忙的月份，Newpark 比赛，CSM concert, piano exam 接踵而来，中了就嘛烦了。 Newpark 的比赛相当顺利，慈洋和慈情的 Duet 拿very highly commended, 而慈情和慈航的 Duet 竟然拿下第一！！！ Then, 慈情在 piano solo u/10 里又拿了个 highly commended, 我的 reward 奖金都给了几十euro, but 值得啦。 18/5/2012， 替慈洋换 swim suit时，oh my god...担心的事还是发生了！！ 慈洋身体 covered with chicken pox. Nothing much I can do just put back his clothing and watch other swim. 晚上，上完 course 回来，慈航高兴得来通报---他也中chicken pox 了！！ 完了， Saturday 的 prizewinner concert 不用去了， piano 的 theory 和 practical exam 也不用去了，唉。。。lotto 都没有这么准！！！ 要求 school 按排慈航见一见学校的 psychologist, 很担心这孩子的心理问题，脾气很爆呀。 过后和 Michael 谈了，这孩子表面上看起来很强，其实骨子里是没有什么 confident 的人。在家称霸，去到学校声音还小过蚊子，Aideen Maher 也说他在班上很静。静不用紧，at least 不要给人欺负，可是他就让人弄哭了好几回。他也告诉 Michael 他希望 daddy 可以多陪他。我告诉 daddy 要他注意这件事，这孩子开始变 man 了，也很崇拜 daddy， 他现在要的是 father figure, , 我这个妈妈要慢慢退下来了。

管孩子

Told myself don't always get cross with the children. 自己不开心也弄到其他的人不开心。试过控制自己的脾气，心平气和的和孩子讨论事情 or 纠正他们的 mistake, 通常是事半工倍的， 尤其是对慈航，这方法很管用，看样子自己真的要再加多点油了。Always read parenting's books will help to remind me to use right methods to deal with the kids.

受伤

I am sitting at A&E departmentin in Connolly hosptal right now. Hurt my little finger 3 weeks ago, taken Dafin for 2 weeks but didn't improve, actually I think it got worse. I think if 我是很怕痛的人就不会拖到今天了。
The nurse said I need to wait for 3 hours before the pratitional nurse can see me..吃力叻！！！Parking meter 是一直跳, 2.20 per hour, 还要加医药费 100， 真的。。。。

St Peter collage

最近常和慈航 argued 的话题是他应该去哪间中学。 St Peter 来了信，我很开心但他不。 其实没人可以肯定哪间中学是 the best， 就赌一赌吧。很多时候还是要看他自己。